We act according to our beliefs about the world. By these actions we shape a reality, a truth of how the world works. Our actions will also affect how those around us react to us. Their actions towards us will solidify our beliefs. This is how we create our own personal truth.
Consider the following:
“William and Dorothy Thomas (1928) wrote: ‘If [people] define situations as real, they are real in their consequences’ (p.572). Their point is simple: Humans act in a world they define, and although there may actually be a reality out there, their definition is far more important for what they do. In the end, it does not matter if you are a scoundrel or not; what matters is that I see you as a scoundrel and I act toward you as if you were one. And you, in turn, may not be a scoundrel, but you may accept my definition of you as one and then proceed to act that way. If I see a situation as threatening, then I will act accordingly, even if people in that situation did not mean to appear threatening. If I define school as hard or good or silly, then I will act toward school in that manner, no matter if others feel as I do and no matter if it is in reality harder, better, sillier than other schools . Our realities are our definitions of situations. Definitions must define the situation (including those others) by engaging in mind activity. We act in a world that we create through interaction with self influenced in part by interaction with others” Joel M. Charon (Symbolic Interactionism: An Introduction, an Interpretation, an Integration. 8th ed., pg 127).
I think this is something we should keep in mind when there is discourse between two groups. People act according to their beliefs. If we take a moment to consider those beliefs we can perhaps understand each other a little better. We can work together to change reality. I think that is kind of a cool concept. That is all.
Thin privilege is finally getting the courage together to go to a therapist, to start opening up about how much you’ve hated yourself over the years, the shame that’s weighed you down most of your life, and not having her say “well, maybe you’d be happier if you concentrated on losing some weight.”
This reminds me of when I was going through a lot of depression (13 years ago). I had been in and out of the hospital for self-harming and was finally getting a little better. At the time I had found a lot of comfort in my religion. My family started taking me to church and I really enjoyed it but I still struggled with the thoughts of hurting myself.
My mom took me to talk to the pastor. Basically, he told me that I needed to lose weight because there was no way that I could be happy being as “overweight” as I was.
My mom worked at the church nursery and was hanging some posters when she slipped off the foot stool and landed directly on her knee on the concrete floor. The same pastor told her that her knee would have been fine if she wasn’t so overweight.
This pastor also told my sister-in-law, before her wedding, that she make sure she works out and takes care of her body or her soon-to-be husband would find someone else.
There was a whole bunch of crap wrong with this church and pastor and his son…. but I’m going to stop right here. Suffice to say that I no longer go to church.Source: thisisthinprivilege