The Fat Grackle

I blogged a thought last night that I wanted to expand upon… I made it a quote… by me! lol

"There is a powerful freedom that comes with the realization that, when  people are hateful towards me in regards to my relative attractiveness  or opinions regarding such, it is really just a reflection of their own  insecurities and has nothing to do with who I am as a person."  -  Starsha Brown

(Image by: Noir Nouar)

I blogged a thought last night that I wanted to expand upon… I made it a quote… by me! lol

"There is a powerful freedom that comes with the realization that, when people are hateful towards me in regards to my relative attractiveness or opinions regarding such, it is really just a reflection of their own insecurities and has nothing to do with who I am as a person."  - Starsha Brown

(Image by: Noir Nouar)

There is a powerful freedom that comes with the realization that when people are hateful to me, it is really just a reflection of their own insecurities and has nothing to do with who I am.

The Art and Science of Rational Eating

ballerina-bones:

“Fat people, it is commonly held, should be punished because they offend our aesthetic sensibilities. They take up too much space on subways, buses, airplanes, and elevators. They consume more than they contribute to society. They become ill and need to be taken care of, or they die early and their families are left unsupported. The only way fat people can gain some acceptance and forgiveness for their crime of overeating is to at least try, or look like they are trying, to lose weight. They must never eat an ice cream cone in public, never be seen eating a normal sized portion of non-diet food!”

Albert Ellis, Michael Abrams, Lidia Dengelegi, The Art & Science of Rational Eating (via euphoricelixir)

It is laughable that this quote is actually being used the way I found it being used. The book being quoted actually argues things like:

We will show that the actual evidence robustly points in another direction. It shows that there are many different types of people, all shapes, sizes, and styles, and obesity, rather than being symptom of neurosis, may say no more about a person than her height, hair color, or skin texture.

In this book we shall argue against these notions by showing that obesity stems more from genetic and biological than from neurotic roots, and that most personality traits “causing” obesity actually originate from people lambasting themselves for being fat.

I was particularly fond of the following quote (even though I do not advocate dieting), because of its emphasis on the individual’s need for self love:

Changing one’s weight or eating style has been shown to be a most difficult long-term behavioral goal. The obese individual has a far lesser chance of permanently becoming thin than the heroin addict has of becoming clean, the crack user becoming drug free, or the alcoholic staying dry. With such an imposing obstacle to clear, the dieter had better learn to accept himself as he is, prior to making a grand effort to become thin. A person prone to self-downing actually discourages himself from changing traits that he loathes. If one hates oneself, one tends to be particularly unmotivated to work at self-improvement. “If I am no good, how can ‘rotten me’ improve my rotten traits?” Rational-emotive therapy encourages self-acceptance, not merely self-efficacy, and not self-esteem. As noted above, both of those forms of self-rating work badly. To achieve self-esteem you have to perform well. To achieve self-efficacy you have to constantly do better than others. By definition then, self-esteem and self-efficacy require relative ratings. But self-acceptance means that you view yourself as a “worthy person” whether or not you have great accomplishments. You do not rate you, your personhood, and do not blame yourself for not being better than you are. Of course, you work to improve your acts and traits in order to enjoy yourself and increase your standing in life. But it is unreasonable to disparage yourself simply because you are not the way that you presumably should or must be.

And those quotes are just what I read from Amazon’s book preview. I am now going to have to buy this book and read it. I have found a new appreciation for Dr. Albert Ellis. I think I shall give REBT a more serious look after today.

(Source: driftbending)

FAT AND HAPPY QUOTE OF THE DAY
April 9, 2011
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can  choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived  yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” —  Groucho Marx
Photo from adipositivity.com

FAT AND HAPPY QUOTE OF THE DAY

April 9, 2011

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” — Groucho Marx

Photo from adipositivity.com

Fat Beauty

Have you visited adipositivity.com? I love the message that this site is sending to people. The artistic photography from there has actually helped me find my own beauty!

adipositivity.com

This is a sample of the photography from the site.


And excerpt from the site:


The women you see in these images are educators, executives, mothers, musicians, professionals, performers, artists, activists, clerks, and writers. They are perhaps even the women you’ve clucked at on the subway, rolled your eyes at in the market, or joked about with your friends.

My thoughts:


Fat people are more than just the fat they carry. They are more than the stereotyped image of the fat person who is lazy and eats all day. They have lives and families. Yet they seem to be open targets for public shame and humiliation. It seems that so many people are all to willing to poke fun at someone who is fat because of some preconceived notion that all fat people choose to be that way. Just because fat is so obvious. It cannot be hidden. It can’t be tucked away within ourselves or stuffed in a box and stored under the bed. It can never be a secret.

People do all kinds of unhealthy things every single day… things that they don’t have to wear with them day after day. These people can still be appreciated for their beauty… why shouldn’t a fat person have the same privileged?

I’m pro-fat acceptance because I am pro-human rights. Fat people have a right to feel comfortable in their own skin. They have a right to leave their houses without shame or fear of being mocked. Other people do not have to like it, but they certainly do not have a right to make someone feel less than human because of it.

Thank you adipositivity, for helping me recognize my own beauty!

FAT AND HAPPY QUOTE OF THE DAY
“Be happy. It’s one way of being wise.”  — Sidonie Gabrielle
picture from adipositivity.com

FAT AND HAPPY QUOTE OF THE DAY

“Be happy. It’s one way of being wise.” — Sidonie Gabrielle

picture from adipositivity.com

Fat and Happy Quote of the Day
“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence” - Aristotle


Picture from adipositivity.com

Fat and Happy Quote of the Day

“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence” - Aristotle

Picture from adipositivity.com

megadelicious:

curvesappreciationsociety:


No airbrushing required.
Why? 
Because I love my body. 100% natural. No fillers, slimmers, shapers or spanx -ers. :)
“Oh no she didn’t! Did she just say she loves her over 300lb, size 26/28 body?!”Yes, I did. And I am on a mission to inspire every woman reading this to embrace their bodies too!

You can check out her blog by clicking the photo above!

:’)

megadelicious:

curvesappreciationsociety:

No airbrushing required.

Why?

Because I love my body. 100% natural. No fillers, slimmers, shapers or spanx -ers. :)

“Oh no she didn’t! Did she just say she loves her over 300lb, size 26/28 body?!”

Yes, I did. And I am on a mission to inspire every woman reading this to embrace their bodies too!

You can check out her blog by clicking the photo above!

:’)

(Source: curvesappreciationsociety, via ilovefat)